Friday 26 August 2011

Thursday 4 August 2011

Marriages of Tension

Just read this very interesting perspective on marriage by the "Orthodox rabbi and relationship expert" Shmuley Boteach. Thanks Mark Sayers for the quote, from his book The Vertical Self.

Marriages should be based not on trust, but on tension. Not on routine, but on raging emotion. Not on respect, but on jealousy. Not on confidence, but suspicion. Sounds crazy, right? But think of it this way: When you trust that your spouse will never be erotically attracted to a stranger and will never be unfaithful, you start taking him or her for granted. Isn't this really the number-one-killer of marriages? Isn't growing bored and "falling out of love" the most lethal of all marital illnesses? Won't a relationship be doomed if a couple is complacent and smug to the point of not having to work at it anymore?

Monday 1 August 2011

Pleasures

"It isn't the big pleasures that count the most; it's making a great deal out of the little ones."
- Jean Webster